Give Out Your Number Instead Of Asking For Hers
One of the biggest components of being a dominant, confident male is the use of “compliance.” Which is a fancy way of saying “tell people what to do, and have them act on your commands.” I mean, think about it…when one person tells another what to do, and that person does it, it instantly establishes both authority and the correct “I say / You do” frame that makes women wet. It’s great not only for picking up girls, but is also the best frame from you relationship IF you want to keep her happy and wet for you.
Remember, you are the man. Your nature is to dominate. She is the woman. Her nature is to submit to the right kind of dominant male. Guys, there is a reason that women everywhere and all their female relatives diddled themselves furiously to 50 Shades of Grey.
Anyway, I’m going to share one piece of the puzzle, which demonstrates on a micro level how things should be playing out most of the time. I am not saying to always act like an asshole, or to be overly controlling (though many of them love that). I am saying that you are IN CONTROL, not necessarily a controlling individual.
Lots of guys like to ask women for their phone numbers when a talk is going well and they want to continue the interaction later. But in light of the natural way of things, Man as Dominant and Woman as Submissive….doesn’t kind of flip the script? (Answer: yes it does).
You are asking for her approval, supplicating and being submissive by asking her for stuff.
Before I continue (since I know how many people in this realm think in always-never-concrete thinking), no, I am not saying that asking for a girl’s number won’t work. Obviously that can work and often does, and if a woman already wants to bang you, she will jump at the chance to give you her contact information.
Instead, I am talking about being able to set a tone. Also, in my experience, this will get you far more numbers than simply asking. There are two ways to do it:
1. Put Your Number In My Phone
At any time during a conversation that’s going well, you can hand a girl your phone and tell her to put her number into it. I got this idea from the VitalyzedTV YouTube video, which I encourage you to watch. After seeing it, I had to try it for myself, while also recognizing the need for some basic conversation, flirting and fluff talk first.
The shocking thing is that, so far, it has worked 100% of the time. 100%. Every girl who I’ve told to put her number in my phone has done so without hesitation. Whether they’re confused, intimidated, flattered, excited, or simply responding to a chain of commands, they will all do it if you do it properly.
To make it work, hand her your phone by moving it towards her waist. It is a basic human instinct to grab whatever is put there (wink wink) unconsciously, if it’s in the right range and distance. She will grab your phone. Since you’re telling her at the same time to put her number in, she’s just following your compliance chain by both grabbing your phone and putting her number in. So that’s one way to do it.
However, it can be a bit intimidating or abrupt. A “softer” version of that is what I mentioned in the title–giving her your number instead of asking for hers. My favorite thing about this is that, instead of putting you in the position where you have to chase and be clever and get her attention, you can be reasonably sure that she wants to bang when she texts you later (if she does, and also depending on the content and time of night). It puts you in the “chooser” role instead of “chaser,” which is ALWAYS a better bet.
The tactical part:
Give her your number, and for bonus points, tell her what to text you. I stopped asking for numbers a couple years ago, and just started telling girls “here’s my number” instead. I’ve done it online, a lot, and in person, a lot (enough to notice a difference and experience a paradigm shift). At least 90% of girls you’re flirting with will do so without hesitation. This also sets a better frame…you offering, and them accepting…than your asking, and her giving. I know that’s probably confusing, so just try to keep it in mind and see what your experience tells you; perhaps then…it will make more sense in the long run.
You don’t need any sort of cutesy number-getting tricks (though they’re still fun from time to time). Seriously…just tell them what to do and most of the time, they will do it.
The theoretical part:
This entire exchange is a multifaceted compliance test. You want her, ideally, doing as much as what you say as possible. So when you give her your number, and tell her what to text you, there are three points at which she can display her level of compliance:
1. Does she resist when you tell her to take your number down? (In my experience, nearly all of them say “ok!” and just do it)
2. Does she text you, call you, or neither?
3. If she texts you, does she text you with what you told her to?
The best part:
When you…begin telling people what to do, instead of asking so many damned questions…they are left with three options: comply, resist, or refuse.
If she complies, awesome! This is the type of girl who likes being told what to do, which is most of them, and you can probably have any kind of fun you want with her behind closed doors later on.
If she resists, awesome! Now you have something to punish her for. Saying things like “that’s 1, young lady” or “earning punishments already, are you? you sure move quick” can turn a Yellow into a Green with shocking speed and efficiency. Because she will get fucking wet. How many men do you think speak to women like this?
If she refuses, good! Now you can move on to the next one, who is almost definitely going to be more compliant, attracted to you, and down to fuck than the one who couldn’t even take a simple direction from you.
Because ultimately, this is about YOU and YOUR EXPERIENCE. Game is about getting what YOU want (again, don’t be a total dick). How fun is a girl going to be if she’s constantly arguing, power-struggling, and trying to one-up you?
If that’s the kind of girl you like, go for it, I guess. She sounds a little too masculine and bull-headed for me.
If you…like me…prefer girls who do what you say, love being told what to do and enjoy women who can be your submissive little sex kitten…you can start finding them by telling lots of girls what to do and then capitalizing on the ones who do so with a big smile on their faces.